Psychological Strategies:
Make him know you need him.
Men like to know that they are needed. They need to be able to prove themselves to you. So give them the chance to do that; let him help you in little ways. If you want to make a guy fall in love with you, you must make your guy feel like your provider and protector, and someone you genuinely admire. In other words, you have to make him feel like a hero (not exactly like Thor though). I know it sounds a bit silly. In this day and age, women don’t need someone to rescue them. They don’t need a ‘hero’ in their lives. And I couldn’t agree more. But here’s the ironic truth. Men do still need to be a hero. Because it’s built into their DNA to seek out relationships that allow them to feel like a provider. Men have a thirst for your admiration. They want to step up to the plate for the woman in their lives and service, provide and protect her. This is deeply rooted in male biology. And the kicker? A man won’t stay interested in a woman when this thirst isn’t satisfied. He wants to see himself as a provider. As someone, you genuinely want and need to have around. Not as a mere accessory, ‘best friend’, or ‘partner in crime’. If you don’t make him feel this, he will feel like less of a man. Emasculated. And he will lose interest in you in no time. There’s a psychological term for what I’m talking about here. It’s called the hero instinct. Now, you can’t trigger his hero instinct just giving him admiration next time you see him. Men don’t like receiving participation awards for showing up. Trust me. A man wants to feel like he has earned your admiration and respect. How? You have to find ways to make him feel like your hero. There’s an art to doing this which can be a lot of fun when you know exactly what to do. But it requires a little more work than just asking him to fix your computer or carry your heavy bags. If you can trigger this instinct successfully, then you’ll see the results immediately. When a man genuinely feels like your hero, he’ll become more loving, attentive, and interested in being in a committed long-term relationship. The hero instinct is subconscious drive men have to gravitate toward people who make him feel like a hero. But it’s amplified in his romantic relationships.
Compliment him when he tries.
Men aren’t always as secure about themselves as they may seem. The ways they make an effort are generally subtler than how women do it, so if you see a man trying to work on himself, point it out and compliment him. He’ll love you for it and it will turn him on.
Admire the parts about him that make him a man.
A man wants a partner who will make him feel like he’s going in the right direction. Show him that you recognize and see the good parts about himself that other people usually wouldn’t point out. Make him want to continue growing.
Be patient.
For many men, relationships and falling in love require a slow burn, and this may be too slow for some women who want to feel that there’s real progress happening. Be patient; he knows that you want things to be faster, and he’s trying his best. Show him that you’re willing to wait.
Show him you’re thinking about him.
There is no easier way to show a man that you care about him (and make him care about you in return) than by randomly telling him you’re thinking about him throughout the day.
Show an interest in his interests.
A man can be very protective of his world and his identity, and it can be hard for him to envision his life with a woman who doesn’t want anything to do with the parts about himself that he considers necessary. So show an interest in his interests, like his hobbies and activities, and show him that you can be a part of his world without disrupting or ending it.
Physical Strategies
Look him in the eyes.
In an age of constant smartphones and texting, we’ve forgotten the importance of eye contact when it comes to establishing a real connection. It might seem silly, but the difference between “just enough” eye contact and little eye contact can be huge. Without enough eye contact, your man might not even remember who you are.
Focus on your similarities.
The way you act, speak, dress, whatever: there are bound to be similarities between you and your man target, and capitalizing on those similarities is a great way to capture his attention. We have a natural tendency to be attracted to people who remind us of ourselves, even if it’s something as small as facial expressions.
Stay close to him.
Physical proximity is a huge factor in attraction. Try to hang around him a lot, and when you do, always be in his personal space. As I mentioned earlier, friendly touching is the perfect way to get your interest in his mind and make him start wondering what it would be like to be “more than friends”.
Win his heart by filling their stomach.
We all know the classic line, “The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach”, and there’s a reason why it’s a classic. Because it works. When you can show a man that you are not only a great person, but also a great chef, you will find him at maximum comfort levels with you.
Laugh even when it’s not funny.
It’s not about forcing your laughter; it’s just about appreciating the humor that he shares with you. A man wants to know that he can bring his partner joy and happiness; the more easily you can laugh at his jokes and antics, the more comfortable he will be with you.
Listen to him.
Men generally don’t talk and express themselves as much as women do, and this is because men don’t have the same social connections and opportunities that women create for expressing themselves. So they may not be accustomed to opening up and talking about their feelings over. Give them the chance to do that by listening to them and prodding them on, even when they resist.
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